Ending a bad date

The guy that you have fancied for ages has asked you out on a date and you've spent all day getting ready. Then when he turns up he looks like he's been dragged through a hedge backwards and that's just his hair. He is wearing a tatty t-shirt and an old pair of jeans while you are all made up. It's too late to get changed so you leave with him any way. Where does he take you? Yes, you've got it, to your local pub where he spends half the night talking to his friends and the other half talking about them. Then to top it off he takes you for fish and chips. The whole date was a complete disaster. He is not the guy you thought he was and you don't know why you even fancied him in the first place.

So what do you do when it is time to say good night? How do you avoid the end of the date kiss? And how do you let him down gently without being too harsh?

It is obvious you have no intentions of seeing him again so don't beat about the bush, just get straight to the point. Sometimes being nice just doesn't work. Being to nice to a guy in whom you have no interest can lead to mixed signals, giving him the wrong idea and may lead to unwanted advances.

First, thank him for a nice date and explain that he is not the type of person you are looking for. If he asks for a second chance and asks you to go on another date with him, you must be firm with him. If you don't want to have any kind of relationship with the guy then you have to make it quite clear.

Don't tell him that you want to be friends, unless you are really serious about being his friend. If you don't want to see him again make this very clear and avoid any contact with him at all. Even giving in to a good night kiss will send out the wrong signals and that is the last thing you want.